| Location | Tulsa, Oklahoma |
| Age | 39 years |
| Cause of Death | Accident |
| Date of Birth | 22/02/1969 |
| Date of Death | 04/04/2008 |
| Visitors | 2,292 since 16/01/2009 |
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Allen was born Feb. 22, 1969 to Joe & Lois Bauders. He was the sweetest, cutest baby. My mom's &
dad's first grand child. He was our everything. When He was 2 1/2 yrs., his baby brother, Terry was
born. Allen was only a baby himself, and was never jealous of him. He loved his brother. We lived at
Mingo, on the outskirts of Tulsa, Okla. He started school at Mingo Elementary, where he attended for
8 yrs. He played in the band, played basketball and baseball. He was a terrific pitcher. Other
coaches from the other teams would even comment on his pitching ability. We moved to Collinsville
where he graduated from Collinsville High School in 1987. He attended vo-tech for 2 yrs. where he
learned his trade as a machinst. He loved the cabin. We spent all of our summers down there. He
loved to water ski, drive the pontoon,kept the fire pit going,always spashing someone with water! He
was always bringing down some sort of toy for the kids to play with. He loved kids, and was a big
kid himself. That's what we all loved about him, always joking, & cutting up. He & Terry could
really make us laugh. Our boys had that very special brother bond. Even though they wouldn't see
each other all the time, they had the brother love, and everyone that knew them, knew that. He was
brought up with cats & dogs. He loved animals. He got this dog that was part wolf & german shepard,
named him "Dakota". He raised him from a puppy. Had Dakota for years, then mom & dad got him when he
was really old. Took care of him til he died. (Our grand dog). He never really got another one for
himself. His wife Kelly would bring dogs in and had 1 when they married in March, 2006. He loved
them all. (More grand dogs!)Allen died April 4, 2008 in a single car accident. It was the worst day
of our lives. We miss him so much, words can't even express. Our family is no longer whole. We know
that we will join him in Heaven, when God calls us each home. In the meantime, we have our memories,
and know that he is and always will be with us in spirit. He is with his "Mema" Waleeta Gordon, who
went to Heaven Sept. 10, 2005. She was waiting for him with open arms. We miss both of them so very
much.
Our Son, Allen
WHEN TOMORROW STARTS WITHOUT ME
When tomorrow starts without me,
And I'm not there to see;
If the sun should rise and find your eyes
All filled with tears for me;
I wish so much you wouldn't cry
The way you did today,
While thinking of the many things,
We didn't get to say.
I know how much you love me,
As much as I love you,
And each time that you think of me,
I know you'll miss me too;
But when tomorrow starts without me,
Please try to understand,
That an angel came and called my name,
And took me by the hand,
And said my place was ready,
In heaven far above,
And that I'd have to leave behind
All those I dearly love.
But as I turned to walk away,
A tear fell from my eye,
For all my life, I'd always thought,
I didn't want to die.
I had so much to live for,
So much yet to do,
It seemed almost impossible,
That I was leaving you.
I thought of all the yesterdays,
The good ones and the bad,
I thought of all the love we shared,
And all the fun we had.
If I could relive yesterday,
Just even for awhile,
I'd say goodbye and kiss you
And maybe see you smile.
But then I fully realized,
That this could never be,
For emptiness and memories,
Would take the place of me.
And when I thought of worldly things,
I might miss come tomorrow,
I thought of you, and when I did,
My heart was filled with sorrow.
But when I walked through heaven's gates,
I felt so much at home.
When God looked down and smiled at me,
From His great golden throne,
He said "This is eternity,
And all I've promised you."
Today for life on earth is past,
But here it starts anew.
I promise no tomorrow,
But today will always last,
And since each day's the same day
There's no longing for the past.
But you have been so faithful,
So trusting and so true.
Thought there were times you did some things,
You knew you shouldn't do.
But you have been forgiven
And now at last you're free.
So won't you take my hand
And share my life with me?
So when tomorrow starts without me,
Don't think we're far apart,
For every time you think of me,
I'm right here, in your heart.
Does the pain ever end?
Allen, we werent close even though we live less than a mile apart... I was closer to Terri's age. I remember very clearly a cold night, when I heard a loud noise outside my window, I ran to the livingroom and opened the door, I saw a round light laying on the ground, all I could do was yell Terri's name, I have no idea how I knew it was him, but he yelled out to me "ya its me" I said what happened and get up here to the house, as he walked up I yelled for mom to call a ambulance and then she called your mom, He told me he was cold and that he didnt need a ambulance, all I could do was cry and say " yes sweetheart you do" I got him a blanket and then your mom and dad and the ambulance showed up at the same time.... I never saw your mom sooo scared before, even though Terri was ok, the thought of one of her boys hurt, was killing her. Then when I heard what happened to you my heart sank, what was Carol going to do with one of her babies gone. We never know when something is going to change our lives forever and make us see in a whole different light. I hope you know I love you and just because we werent close cousins, doesnt mean you were any less of family to me.. I love you.. Love you Carol, Joe, and Terri We we have nothing else, we have each other... Heather
My son Allen, I love you, I miss you
If roses grow in heaven,
Lord Please pick one for me.
Place it in my Loved ones hand
And tell them it's from me.
Tell them that I love them
And when they turn to smile,
Place a kiss upon their cheek
And hold them for a while.
Remembering them is easy,
I do it every day.
But there's an ache within my heart
That will never go away.
♥ღ♥ In every sunrise, every mountain;
Every rainbow, every star;
I’m loving you, I know you’re there;
Yet I’m not sure where you are.
Are you sitting here beside me;
Or were you that bird that flew?
I feel the wind blow in my ear;
And I’m wondering if it’s you.
Are you reading over my shoulder?
Are you holding my hand right now?
I want to tell you I love you;
But I’m not sure if I know just how.
I can feel you wiping my teardrops;
And asking me please not to cry.
I’m missing you and loving you so much;
And I’m wondering why you had to die ♥ღ♥ xxx
Sent with love
We sit here and think of you,
In your special place,
We look at all your photographs,
With teardrops on our face,
Just because your out of sight,
And we are always feeling blue
We think about you day and night,
Because Allen . We Love You....
Thinking of you
Love from the wallers xxxxxx.
Cousin Allen
Allen, I sure do miss you. Me and Araya used to have fun at your house, when you & Kelly babysat with us. I love you Sadie Payne (9yrs.)
My 2nd Cousin, Allen
I love you Allen. I hope you are having a good time in Heaven. Me & Sadie spent the night with Aunt Lois & Uncle Joe last night. We get to go watch Kori play basketball this evenning. I remember you letting me put make up on you when you & Kelly babysit us. I hope you are having a good time in Heaven with your friends and God. I miss you Araya (5 yrs. Old)
"I'll lend you for a little time
A child of Mine," He said,
"For you to love the while he lives,
And mourn for when he's dead.
It may be six or seven years
Or twenty-two or three,
But will you, till I call him back,
Take care of him for Me?
He'll bring his charms to gladden you,
And should his stay be brief,
You'll have his lovely memories
As solace for your grief."
"I cannot promise he will stay,
Since all from earth return.
But there are lessons taught down there
I want this child to learn.
I've looked this wide world over,
In my search for teachers true.
And from the throngs that crowd life's lanes,
I have selected you.
Now will you give him all your love,
Not think the labor vain,
Nor hate Me when I come to call
And take him back again?"
I fancied that I heard them say,
"Dear Lord, Thy will be done,
For all the joy Thy child shall bring,
The risk of grief we'll run.
We'll shelter him with tenderness,
We'll love him while we may,
And for the happiness we've known,
Forever grateful stay.
But should the angels call for him,
Much sooner than we planned,
We'll brave the bitter grief that comes,
And try to understand."
~ Author Unknown ~
Sent with love
Those we love dont go away.
There in our hearts and minds all day.
Remember them with lots of love.
And blow them kisses to heaven above.
love from Jan and family ...xxxxxxxxxx
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You are greatly missed. Tell all them "Oakies" that we love and miss them all.
God Bless You-
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